Category: Parent Talk
I have less than 10wks left till my bundle of joy is in my arms... I was wonderin tho, how the first 24hrs after labor was like for yall (how u felt, the good/the bad, etc...)???
I hear it is tirering. Your spending it getting back your energy
girl, me being a first time mommy um, let me tell u what, omg i was so damn doped up, it was insaine!! if u wana read my whole labor story, go to
www.myspace.com/sweetlilmami313
and then go under the blog post that says
"labor experience"
if u want u can add me if u want 2.
Well, I hate to burst your bubble Bella but every birth is different for every mom. My son's birth was insanely different than my daughter's and they were both C-section births and that's the only similarity. If you are as obsessed with that kind of information as I was when pregnant with my first child, go to babycenter.com and click on pregnancy. There are birth stories, articles and QandAS. I am a member there and my username is SonRisenSoul.
parenting.com also has some info about birth and the child's development, and almost any other topic you'd ever want. I found it for my baby sister when she was having her first child. You don't have (or didn't have) to get a membership. Also, my sister's first birth was really easy for her. Painful, but easy as far as some of it goes...She didn't even have to have an apeasiotomy.
Im looking for as a first time mom & bein VI/blind...what was it like the first 24hrs AFTER labor?? Not looking for labor stories but once your baby is finally home. Ive seen & talked to sighted friends & relatives bout how it was for them, but me bein VI i wanted to know how it was for the moms on here.
I can't say any thing on the laber aspect, but as soon as we got noah home, my husband and I kept taking turns staying beside him, we were scared to leave him so one of us would sit with our hands in his vassanet at all times, he was in the nicu for a wile, so our situation may have been different, but i'd guess any first time brand new mother would do the same. it was a little scarry, but we got threw it, and even though I didn't give birth to him, I was still so tired because it really does take alot out of a person to take care of a new born. I think we woke up more then he did that first night, just listening to his breathing, or checking his pulse, making sure he was ok, checking to see if he was hot or cold, re swoddling him, things like that, it was a hectic time, learning your baby's cues takes a fiew days some times, and being a blind parrent makes it a little more challanging because you can't see fatial expressions and sutch, but you adapt just like every thing elce. i learnt to tell his crys apart, to know when he was hungry, wet, or just wanted to be helled. I think sighted people do this too, but I don't think it's as commin as it is for us who are blind, you'll really learn your oddable or tactle cues. sutch as most if not all babys will stiffen up right before they cry, or there breathing will increase. I hope some of this helped you, every baby is different, so there's no right or wrong answer here, you'll figure out your baby and no it better then any one elce in the world, and it's an amazing feeling. it's scarry having sutch a little new life that's all your responcibility, but it's worth it.
as for hospital stuff, we had a soashal worker talk to us after he was born, but it wasn't as bad as some people make it out to be or what some people have to go threw. she actuilly helped us quite a bit with givving us baby stuff and giving us good resorces because we didn't know about noah in advance, we were not ready for a baby as far as clothing and crib/car seet, things like that.
our situation was alot different, but we were blessed, we were allowed to make all medical dysitions as soon as he was born and we had an easier time than we should have had.
you really have to prove your self as a blind parrent,
sorry, I rambled. it's what i'm good at.
congradulations on your baby. please please please, keep up on your prenadle stuff, it makes all the diffrance in the world.
Bad Influence, thanks so much for sharing your experiences. I have a feeling that I will be one of those nervous wreck parents myself when it comes to the baby, I think anyway. i'll have to give it to God.
Thanks for the post replies...& thanks post 7. U gave me sum sort of an idea of wut it would be like. I jus hope fam & relatives think they need to take over. They have seen & kno that i do well. It'll be somewhat different cause it will be my baby forever.
be verry up frunt with what you want, for instance, if you don't feel like you want people around, for the first fiew days, say so, on the other hand, if you do want some one around at first, again, say so! I'm not sure if your going to be a single mother or not but that can make a diffrance. it's ok to take small brakes also, if your family gets too pushy, you really need to stand up for your self. it takes some time but I think i've finally molded my family to the way I want them, they don't try to take over, if noah is getting in to something, they tell me so I can correct the problem, and not let too many people stur the pot. if your baby has spit up, they need to let you know so you can wipe it up, do not let them wipe it up and asume you can't and then say something after it is done. the key is being verry vocal about what you do and don't want from your family. remember, sighted people get help from there family also. my biggest problem was too many people wanting to hold noah, I couldn't stand it, you'll go threw that also. you'll feel like they have too many jerms, and you'll want him all to your self, this is perfictly normal, and if you feel like you need your baby back in your arms, tell who ever is holding him that you would like him back. i know you probably think i'm crazy, but I sware, you'll go threw it. like I said, I can't remember much of the first 24 hours, I don't know if many people do, because your just so dang tired.
Lol. That is true. Even my mom would wipe down/bathe my lil bros when ppl would carry them. I KNOW I will do the same. I think i would be carryin him so much that i won't realize it. We won't mind havin ppl around but i know i wouldn't have them there as much. & just hope they understand that we can do it all. We will do grat! I'm not worried for him cause he is sighted, its jus i don't know bout me. He knows bout how much i can see & all. & i guess in ways we will help each other through what it is we need. And ill be srue to speak up & be up front. Thanks